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How many ONS did you have in your life?
To be honest I don't remember them all, but I think around 8.
Pfff, I guess somewhere between 10 and 15.
I'm not sure about this anymore, but it's somewhere between 5 and 10.
To be honest I really don't know. After a certain amount you stop counting. In any case enough to make a statement, no matter how exciting it looks like, no ONS will be close to the way sex with a steady partner, who you care about is. After a time you get used to having one night stands, it becomes a regular routine. That's the moment you should realize; time to change. The more successful you get, the more it starts festering inside. Woman like to say man only regard them as objects of lust. Keep having one night stands and you will get this feeling.
Actually I only had 2 one night stands of-what days unlimited sex came, so actually that's not a 1 night stand any more. Furthermore a few of my relationships came from the thought we would fuck each other what lead to more.
That´s hard to say and it depends on what you call an one night stand? Meeting some one for the first time and take them home right away? Or meeting some one, texting a bit and than have sex once? Or maybe if you know some one trough skype and meet with them? In the fist case I have had three or four, in other over 20.
It totally depends on the situation, I prefer makin eye-contact first cause that's important to me, cause it already shows you if she is interested or not. But usually it's about being spontaneous, like when you are in line to give in your coat.
I like to talk to people, make contact very easy, and that's the same with women.
No, I'm more the wait-and-see-tupe. I make eyecontact and react if I get a response. My appearance (with my tattoos) is a reason for certain girls to come talk to me and one thing leads to another.
Sure, why not? A woman is also a human, right? Why would you be afraid? It's not like they will cut your throat if you make a mistake. Girls are girls. And like they thought you when you were young about spiders, the same goes in this case: They are more sca#ff0054 of you than you of them :P
Nowadays it's really easy, but not long ago I had a lot more trouble with it. At those times I places women on a pedestal and if I failed I saw it to much as a failure of my side. Today I see women as a number, if one says no the other will say yes. It's not personal if they reject you, but to understand that you have to have some experience and insight. Maybe you wouldn't get rejected if you would have said something different or looked different, but still it's not personal.
Not at going out. The going out area is not my familiar surroundings. I really don't like to hit on girls in a club or at the dance-floor. I rather choose a restaurant or lounge-bar. In this way I can focus better on the girl. With going out there are to much disturbing factors like the loud music and the people walking around you. I also don't like to get hit on during going out, in these times I prefer spending time with my friends with whom I'm there. Most of the times I (almost) don't care about the people around me than.
I like to talk to people, make contact very easy, and that's the same with women.
No, I'm more the wait-and-see-tupe. I make eyecontact and react if I get a response. My appearance (with my tattoos) is a reason for certain girls to come talk to me and one thing leads to another.
Sure, why not? A woman is also a human, right? Why would you be afraid? It's not like they will cut your throat if you make a mistake. Girls are girls. And like they thought you when you were young about spiders, the same goes in this case: They are more sca#ff0054 of you than you of them :P
Nowadays it's really easy, but not long ago I had a lot more trouble with it. At those times I places women on a pedestal and if I failed I saw it to much as a failure of my side. Today I see women as a number, if one says no the other will say yes. It's not personal if they reject you, but to understand that you have to have some experience and insight. Maybe you wouldn't get rejected if you would have said something different or looked different, but still it's not personal.
Not at going out. The going out area is not my familiar surroundings. I really don't like to hit on girls in a club or at the dance-floor. I rather choose a restaurant or lounge-bar. In this way I can focus better on the girl. With going out there are to much disturbing factors like the loud music and the people walking around you. I also don't like to get hit on during going out, in these times I prefer spending time with my friends with whom I'm there. Most of the times I (almost) don't care about the people around me than.
How do you get a girl to come home with you?
Usually after going out there is a afterparty to attend, than I ask her to join and have a drink there. After that it just happens.
Usually you already feel the sexual tension in the pub or where you are, specially if both are attracted. So I just ask if she wants to go with me.
If there is a connection and we are both looking for the same there usually is no problem, I actually never had to put effort in it. Most of the times it was just clear what we expected.
Dunnow. By being myself. You will notice on itself it they dig you or not. Go for that kiss. It already says a lot about the woman. In general women think they kiss really good, which very often not true. Also you will notice what kind of girl she is. Does she have passion or not? i'm a dominant person and when I notice a girl doesn't like that of when she is dominant herself I will go find another. As a man you should have a abundance mindset. Assume for 100% you can have every girl where ever. if you notice you like each other and connect, take her with you. Please don't say thing like come home with me to have sex or what ever. She knows this herself as well. If you keep insisting she will never go with you. Keep it casual. After party, drinks, sociability... You know you will have sex, she knows, her friends know, the guy at the bar knows even the hobo across the bar knows. Don't rub it in. And whatever you do, never ask if she wants to go with you. Tell her.. The Netherlands is in a time of emasculation. There are enough pussies out there who all ask the same questions. Be a man. Say: We are goign to have a drink at my place, Let's go I know something nice, I have a nice idea, We are going to my place.. etc. fill in yourself.
I just look for the right girl, the one who you can tell that she wants to go with you. With confidence, good dancemoves who lead to more intimate dancemoves to the right song by which you can feel the right parts, turn her on while not going to far for what's o.k. in public. And to convince her she is the girl who's going home with you tonight, but a special one.
Dunnow, the times it happed the girl invited me. I always try to make a nice evening out of it and if there's a connection I just wait what happens. No pushing from my side, you ca always have a second (sex-)date.
Are you going to her place or do you take her to yours?
Usually after going out there is a afterparty to attend, than I ask her to join and have a drink there. After that it just happens.
Usually you already feel the sexual tension in the pub or where you are, specially if both are attracted. So I just ask if she wants to go with me.
If there is a connection and we are both looking for the same there usually is no problem, I actually never had to put effort in it. Most of the times it was just clear what we expected.
Dunnow. By being myself. You will notice on itself it they dig you or not. Go for that kiss. It already says a lot about the woman. In general women think they kiss really good, which very often not true. Also you will notice what kind of girl she is. Does she have passion or not? i'm a dominant person and when I notice a girl doesn't like that of when she is dominant herself I will go find another. As a man you should have a abundance mindset. Assume for 100% you can have every girl where ever. if you notice you like each other and connect, take her with you. Please don't say thing like come home with me to have sex or what ever. She knows this herself as well. If you keep insisting she will never go with you. Keep it casual. After party, drinks, sociability... You know you will have sex, she knows, her friends know, the guy at the bar knows even the hobo across the bar knows. Don't rub it in. And whatever you do, never ask if she wants to go with you. Tell her.. The Netherlands is in a time of emasculation. There are enough pussies out there who all ask the same questions. Be a man. Say: We are goign to have a drink at my place, Let's go I know something nice, I have a nice idea, We are going to my place.. etc. fill in yourself.
I just look for the right girl, the one who you can tell that she wants to go with you. With confidence, good dancemoves who lead to more intimate dancemoves to the right song by which you can feel the right parts, turn her on while not going to far for what's o.k. in public. And to convince her she is the girl who's going home with you tonight, but a special one.
Dunnow, the times it happed the girl invited me. I always try to make a nice evening out of it and if there's a connection I just wait what happens. No pushing from my side, you ca always have a second (sex-)date.
Are you going to her place or do you take her to yours?
Preferably to mine, it makes me feel more comfortable.
It depends, but more often at my place than at the girl's place.
Mostly we went to my place, I lived by myself so that was the most obvious. Sometimes at hers unless was with someone.
Since I have my own place I take them home. But I have to say, if you are really messy go to hers. 'You recognize the lion by the place he gets up'. Keep your house clean. The place you sleep and live tells a lot about you. Women aren't stupid, they will see it as well. A woman can leave as easy and fast as she came, don't forget about that.
She goes with me.
It depens since I travel a lot. If it happens in a foreign country it's obvious that I'm not taking her to my place ;)
It depends, but more often at my place than at the girl's place.
Mostly we went to my place, I lived by myself so that was the most obvious. Sometimes at hers unless was with someone.
Since I have my own place I take them home. But I have to say, if you are really messy go to hers. 'You recognize the lion by the place he gets up'. Keep your house clean. The place you sleep and live tells a lot about you. Women aren't stupid, they will see it as well. A woman can leave as easy and fast as she came, don't forget about that.
She goes with me.
It depens since I travel a lot. If it happens in a foreign country it's obvious that I'm not taking her to my place ;)
What is the biggest turn-of if you are in bed with her?If she has hair where it doesn´t belong or if she smells bad.
I personally get turned of by (lots of) pubic hair.
Someone who doesn't take care of herselve, by that I mean hair where it doens't belong as in armpits, bikini-area, which really disgusts me, also on men..
Bad Hygiene, no passion, rigor mortis (not literal but my point is clear), no stamina or energy. I'm a very passionate person who likes to keep going, many women aren't used to that.
Women worry to much about this I think. If she is not having a disgusting smell coming out of her mouth or pussy, she is the right person for what you are expecting. I don't expect pornstars in my bed so actually I don't know any turn-ofs.
Pets in the bedroom and a mess.
I personally get turned of by (lots of) pubic hair.
Someone who doesn't take care of herselve, by that I mean hair where it doens't belong as in armpits, bikini-area, which really disgusts me, also on men..
Bad Hygiene, no passion, rigor mortis (not literal but my point is clear), no stamina or energy. I'm a very passionate person who likes to keep going, many women aren't used to that.
Women worry to much about this I think. If she is not having a disgusting smell coming out of her mouth or pussy, she is the right person for what you are expecting. I don't expect pornstars in my bed so actually I don't know any turn-ofs.
Pets in the bedroom and a mess.
In what way does the sex with a ONS differ from sex with a girl you are dating?
I think I'm a little bit more rude/rough but actually there is not much difference.
I don't make a difference between sex with a ONS or with a girl with whom i'm in a relationship.
The real fore-play (wine, music etc.) gets skipped, we go straight to the point, to the bed. Of course not immediately the deed itself, first we 'spoil' each other in different ways.
Since I told at the first question that I only had one night stands I can't answer this question. But I can tell you this, after a while you do get bo#ff0054 of it hehehe.
If it's not an investment in more sex I will try less hard and think more about my won pleasure.
Unconsciously I think I behave a bit difference but consciously I'm not having sex in a different way. I'm totally not thinking about myself and always try to make it nice for the other person, which is probably a bit harder in a one night stand since you don't know what the other person likes. The search for pleasure is with that person a bit harder. Thinking about my pleasure I have to say that I enjoy less in a ONS because than I have to use condoms which make it harder or impossible for me to have an orgasm. I have peace with this but most girls are scared they are not good enough or doing something wrong. I always try to comfort them than but most of the times they don't really believe it.
I think I'm a little bit more rude/rough but actually there is not much difference.
I don't make a difference between sex with a ONS or with a girl with whom i'm in a relationship.
The real fore-play (wine, music etc.) gets skipped, we go straight to the point, to the bed. Of course not immediately the deed itself, first we 'spoil' each other in different ways.
Since I told at the first question that I only had one night stands I can't answer this question. But I can tell you this, after a while you do get bo#ff0054 of it hehehe.
If it's not an investment in more sex I will try less hard and think more about my won pleasure.
Unconsciously I think I behave a bit difference but consciously I'm not having sex in a different way. I'm totally not thinking about myself and always try to make it nice for the other person, which is probably a bit harder in a one night stand since you don't know what the other person likes. The search for pleasure is with that person a bit harder. Thinking about my pleasure I have to say that I enjoy less in a ONS because than I have to use condoms which make it harder or impossible for me to have an orgasm. I have peace with this but most girls are scared they are not good enough or doing something wrong. I always try to comfort them than but most of the times they don't really believe it.
Do you have breakfast together or do you run out of the house?
If we had a nice night and everything went well I will make breakfast and prefer to continue.
She will sleep over ofcourse, and in the morning we will probably do it over again. Some girls leave after that, others stay a bit. It also depends on the plans we have fot that day (think work or school).
Nothing wrong with a nice breakfast, so we eat together, unless she runs out.
It depends on the girl. If she is a bitch with who you only slept because she is a bitch, you kick her out. Is it a nice girl and you had a great evening, bake an egg or let her bake one.
She can have breakfast at home as she is used to.
Depends on the possibilities, if possible we have breakfast. It has happened that I had a appointment and had to leave early. Or that I let her sleep while I got up for work, leaving a not that breakfast was ready.
If we had a nice night and everything went well I will make breakfast and prefer to continue.
She will sleep over ofcourse, and in the morning we will probably do it over again. Some girls leave after that, others stay a bit. It also depends on the plans we have fot that day (think work or school).
Nothing wrong with a nice breakfast, so we eat together, unless she runs out.
It depends on the girl. If she is a bitch with who you only slept because she is a bitch, you kick her out. Is it a nice girl and you had a great evening, bake an egg or let her bake one.
She can have breakfast at home as she is used to.
Depends on the possibilities, if possible we have breakfast. It has happened that I had a appointment and had to leave early. Or that I let her sleep while I got up for work, leaving a not that breakfast was ready.
In case you didn't run, how do you say goodbye?
With a long kiss and an exchange of phonenumbers.
With a good kiss.
With a kiss, and if we really had a good connection maybe with another date, but for sex only.
See the question above, first category byyyyeeee. Second... Some nice words and a kiss. It was a great evening, tell her what you thought about it etc...
I thank her for the nice evening and say goodbye.
There are more scenarios possible, a short note on the pillow, a quick kiss at the door? I prefer morning sex ;)
With a long kiss and an exchange of phonenumbers.
With a good kiss.
With a kiss, and if we really had a good connection maybe with another date, but for sex only.
See the question above, first category byyyyeeee. Second... Some nice words and a kiss. It was a great evening, tell her what you thought about it etc...
I thank her for the nice evening and say goodbye.
There are more scenarios possible, a short note on the pillow, a quick kiss at the door? I prefer morning sex ;)
Do you think more can come out of a ONS?If there really is a connection there definitely will be a second time. To me sex is important in a relationship so if that's good I think it's worth it.
That's certainly possible!
Yes i thinks, actually know it, my relationship has began in this way.
Actually I don't think so, I have been looking for that a long time but I didn't find much. But I don't give up on hope :)
Yes, considering the relationships I got from that, which I don't see as ONS. While it started as an ONS in bed I already realized I wanted more from her.
If I want to I make it work so it will happen again. It has happened that a RS came out of it. I think having sex just 1 time only happened just once.
Has something crazy happened or did you ever blunder? (Or both hihi)
That's certainly possible!
Yes i thinks, actually know it, my relationship has began in this way.
Actually I don't think so, I have been looking for that a long time but I didn't find much. But I don't give up on hope :)
Yes, considering the relationships I got from that, which I don't see as ONS. While it started as an ONS in bed I already realized I wanted more from her.
If I want to I make it work so it will happen again. It has happened that a RS came out of it. I think having sex just 1 time only happened just once.
Has something crazy happened or did you ever blunder? (Or both hihi)
It happened one time during sex that I wanted to put my head down at the same time she came up which resulted in a headbump. I'm not proud of it but luckily we could laugh about it.
One time I had two ONS on one day, the second girl remained my girlfriend for the next year and a half.
Depends on what you call crazy, there was this girl, she was older than me who didn't want a relationship just sex, at the end she was totally in love with me, I never recognized it, eventually she became kind of a stalker, which wasn't nice.
Blunder: 'Course, what man hasn't? If you drink to much some things just don't work anymore.. Luckily enough that hasn't happen often :)
I'm to discrete to answer this :). But blundering happens anyway. The more the better, you can only learn from that. We fall so we can get back up again. So if you go down, fall with your face on the concrete! Hard! It'll make you stronger.
No. I blundered when I was 18, at on of my ONS. I came and got up to get the condom off. When i pulled it off in one movement it snapped like a balloon and we got covered in little drops of seamen. Luckily we could both laugh about it and we saw each other a few times after.
The craziest was during a road-trip along the west coast of the US. I was couch-surfing at a Hawaiian girl who was so drunk she couldn't find her way back home. We had sex in the middle of a highway on the road to her building and once more at her apartment.
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One time I had two ONS on one day, the second girl remained my girlfriend for the next year and a half.
Depends on what you call crazy, there was this girl, she was older than me who didn't want a relationship just sex, at the end she was totally in love with me, I never recognized it, eventually she became kind of a stalker, which wasn't nice.
Blunder: 'Course, what man hasn't? If you drink to much some things just don't work anymore.. Luckily enough that hasn't happen often :)
I'm to discrete to answer this :). But blundering happens anyway. The more the better, you can only learn from that. We fall so we can get back up again. So if you go down, fall with your face on the concrete! Hard! It'll make you stronger.
No. I blundered when I was 18, at on of my ONS. I came and got up to get the condom off. When i pulled it off in one movement it snapped like a balloon and we got covered in little drops of seamen. Luckily we could both laugh about it and we saw each other a few times after.
The craziest was during a road-trip along the west coast of the US. I was couch-surfing at a Hawaiian girl who was so drunk she couldn't find her way back home. We had sex in the middle of a highway on the road to her building and once more at her apartment.
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