*WoManManual Currently Under Construction*: The 23 mistakes women make during sex

Last week I got a really sweet compliment from Mrijn Skold about my blog, along with the question: "why is there a blog about the mistakes men make during sex and not one about the mistakes women make in bed?" 

My first thought was, is there much we women can do wrong? But thinking a bit more I remembered some comments I heard from friends about their sexual partners. 

So I did my research and came up with the following list of 23 mistakes. Read and learn!

1. Being insecure
It may not be the one you expected to be first, but it definitely belongs on number 1! Why? because insecurity will be noticed in every way. From turning of the light (men are visual beings, they want to see what they feel/taste), and hiding under the blankets (He won't be able to breath) to being in the way of your own pleasure and orgasm if you can't let yourself go.
The guy is in bed with you because he wants you and is paying more attention to your boobs than your fat. So just let go of that hold and enjoy, just like they do!

2. Being unhygienic 
Make sure you have a fresh breath, clean undies, that you shower regularly and still, men like a shaven pussy the most. But this can be in all degrees; from airstrips and triangles to totally bold. But most men agree: Where he needs to stick his tongue are no hairs allowed!
So if you are not totally comfortable with a totally empty plain, just leave a little bit but make sure your lips and everything which is not covered with your panties is shaven. Other shapes than a line or triangle are considered childish and he doesn't want to feel like a pedofile.
Don't forget to shave the part from your vagina to your anus. It's a big turnoff if you have a perfectly shaven pussy with a big bush of asshair!

3. Faking!
Faking is my number three since it's a bad thing for both of you. For him: If he finds out you have been faking you'll ruin his self-esteem in that way you can get serious complications (think: erectile disfunctions) plus he will never learn new, good things. And for you: I assume you are having sex to get fun out of it? There are plenty of women who stare frustrated at the ceiling after some unsatisfying sex, but come on ladies. If he is doing something not the way you want, and you are not telling him you can;t blame him. Tell him what you like, or show it. That way you both will be happy and satisfied!

4. Not taking initiative
You take initiative in three ways:
1. By not always waiting for him to make the first move, but by occasionally jumping him.
2. By not lying dead on your back, but by helping him undress or putting a condom on. By not leaving everything to him (egoist!) but by taking care of him as well. Good sex is about giving and taking. So do that!
3. By occasionally surprising him with something. Whether that's new lingerie, sharing your fantasies with him or trying new things in bed.
Men sometimes find it fun to be stirred up and find it really horny if you dare to speak about your desires.

5. Being to quiet
Men are also insecure from time to time. So if you are lying on your back, silent as the night he may get scared he is doing something wrong, and get more insecure the next time (if there will be a next time) and be more scared to try other things.
Besides that, it is a big turn-on for men if you let them know they are doing well. So moan a bit and think that you can use this to get what you want. Is he in the right spot, moan a bit harder and he'll take the hint. If you are having sex, moan harder or whisper naughty things in his ear to make him come even faster.
Warning! The neighbors don't need to be part of your fun! And only moan if you mean it!

6. Comparing him to your exes
Don't start talking about your sexual escapades with your exes or ex-fuckbuddies. Specially no details or any sentence that starts like 'oh what he did was sooo nice/much better/ more on-turning...' That is a really big no-go!
Of course there are thing you can talk about, but not between the sheets and just keep it on the surface. If he doesn't really comment or contribute he actually wants you to shut up!

7. Using sex as a weapon
Using sex as a weapon is something you really shouldn't do. Problems are there to solve, and if you are not in the mood after a fight that's OK, but just refusing him as a way to punish him is absolutely not OK.
Rewarding him sometimes with some extra fun of a really great blowjob is on the other hand very OK!

8. Giving a dry BJ 
Make sure his penis is very wet to prevent scraping him and to make the job more easy for you. Just imagine getting your pussy licked by a real cat...

9. Sucking to hard or to soft on his cock
He shouldn't feel like is stuck to the newest model Dyson, but he needs to feel some suction. If you are not sure ask him or build up the suction and notice his reactions.

10. Scraping teeth.. squeezing hands..ouch!
Be careful with your teeth while giving him a blowjob. Scarping teeth on his dick are as stubbles on your clit. And you don't like that right?
But also biting in covered here. A bit snapping isn't bad (with your lips), but don't just sink your teeth in his prick!
And if you hold him with your hands (penis of scrotum) don't squeeze!

11. Forgetting his nipples and/or balls
Yes he is a man, but his nipples also contain a enormous amount of nerves and a lot of men really enjoy it when you play with his. Some men even come more easy while playing with their nipples!
Besides that, also his balls deserve some attention. Caress, lick or suck them and find out what he likes by noticing his responses, just keep in mind his balls are very sensitive. Prevent them from jumping up, cause that will hurt really bad! I also told you earlier about his perineum, the skin-part between his balls and anus. Caressing of pressing this part can increase his pleasure.
And if you have a man who is open for it, you can stimulate his prostate by fingering his anus. But talk about this before you do it!

12. Assuming he is always in the mood
Like it's unbelievable ha? Even he has days off. Do what you would want him to do. Maybe you can get him in the mood, but otherwise just be nice to him. Cuddle a bit and just enjoy being together!

13. Blaming yourself if it isn't totally working
He also has his bad days where things are not working as he wishes. Maybe it's due to stress at his job. Maybe he is tired or a bit sick. Maybe he is using some medication or drank to much alcohol (or had drugs). This can all be reasons why his penis isn't doing what it should be doing. Don't make a problem out of this, just enjoy from each other the possible ways, and who knows, maybe that will already solve the issue.

14. Not trying new things
Is a bit the same as 4.3 but still important:
It mostly is the same procedure, brushing your teeth, getting dressed for bed, some kisses, a bit oral, he gets on top of you and before you know it, you're done.
Surprise him when he comes home by wearing only an apron while preparing his dinner 'hungry honey?' of kneel while watching a movie..

15. Continuing to kiss him during the act
This again shows how simple men are. Kissing wil turn him on, but as soon as you are having sex he wants to focus on that. Besides that he will also become short of breath if you keep kissing. A kiss now and then isn't a problem, but please save the excessive kissing for before the act.

16. Talking during sex
Talking about anything not related to the act will do the same to him as kissing and thus only distract. You can tell him what you heard from your neighbor after sex.

17. Denying him his porn
Many women get insecure from the fact that their friend is watching porn. The first thought (which again has to do with error number 1) is that they are not enough for him. Butt ladies, we did not stop with drooling over Brad Pitt, Jason Statham and all other handsome men, did we? Or set fire to our 50 Shades and relatives, right? Let that guy occasionally enjoy himself, or even better watch one together!

18. Discussing everything with your girls
He thinks it's really not cool that your girlfriends know the size of his dick to the millimeter length how long exactly you need from 0 to ready. Of course we are still women and we want to discuss things together. My (sneaky) advice: just don't let him find out and think for yourself: Would I want his friends to know this about me? If yes, then you tell it, if no, then shut up!

19. Running away and/or sticking on him after sex
Yes we know that semen running through your butt crack isn't exactly nice, but running out of his bed as soon as his penis leaves your pussy isn't exactly decent either. Men also have feelings. Just keep a box of tissues close, wipe the worst bit and enjoy a bit together.
But don't stick onto him for the next half hour. He also wants to catch his breath!

20. Letting him enjoy your beauty-rituals
I am a huge proponent of locks on the bathroom door! He really does need to see all the crazy positions we need to use to get rid of all unwanted hairs. And unfortunately it is not true that nice girls don't poop, but he doesn't need to know that ;)
So keep all these things just for yourself to keep things a little exciting. I assume you don't want to see this kind from things from him either?

21. Riding him like a crazy cowgirl
A little wild is not bad but only if you have control over your movements. Also don't hang backwards too much, because then you run the risk to nod his penis and that's not funny.

22. Scratching his back or branding him
That second I do not mean literally. A hickey can be very erotic, but he is not a cow that must be marked so keep it limited. You would also be ashamed if you had to walk around like that. And it can be sexy and exciting to use your nails t scratch his back a bit, but don't plant them in so deep that afterwards your nails and bed are covered in blood!

Extra: 23. Turn-offs:
- Granny pants
- Skincolored underwear
- To complicated underwear, he can solve puzzles while taking a sh...
- Nasty odors. Men don't like to stick their tongue in something that smells like rotten fish!
- Bushes hair anywhere but on TOP of your head
- To some men applies they want you to, after sucking his dick (and swallowing), drink a bit of water before kissing him. To that men I like to say: Losers!
- Skid marks
- Being bad at giving hand-/blowjobs: Ask him what he likes if you notice your efforts are not creating the effect you wanted.
- Filling escaping from your bra
- Strings of your 'forgotten' tampon dangling from your pussy
- The words little en penis/dick/whatever are forbidden to be used in one sentence

As you may have noticed the errors are not in order of the sexual affairs but more from biggest mistakes to less. Of course this is not for all men, but most. What applies to your man is something you need to discover by trying your best! But these tips will be at least very helpful while trying.