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If the falling in love part starts fading away the irritations will start to increase. Suddenly it's not that funny any more that he always forgets his keys (which cause you to run home immediately after work) or that she is stealing the blanket totally. 

How do you keep you RS healthy despite this irritations? Read it here :)

Break the routine and surprise each-other!

Usualy you are rushing for work in the morning, or the one is already gone while the other is still sleeping which causes you to have no minute for each other. In that case it's a nice idea to surprise the other. Get up half an hour more early and prepare a nice breakfast with freshly baked bread and other nice stuff. Or in case you have to leave more early, leave a romantic note so the other will start his/her day good as well.

Presents: Leave a nice CD with your romantic or favourite songs, get nice flowers delivered at her work, or make sure he gets something small at his job.
Get home early and make sure there is a nice DVD in the player with a bowl of popcorn and a cosy
blanket for on the sofa. Or prepare a romantic diner for two with candles and everything. These kind of things make that the other feels loved again and it will also remind the other of you.

Make some time for each other!

These days everybody is to busy and because of that you are not spending that much time together. Try to find a (steady) day in your week on which you can be together without anything. Go do something nice together. Idea: Go on a date! Not with some one else, but with each other. Act like you just met and re-live your first date. Try to make some agreements like turning off the cellphones or talk about everything except for work and other worry business. They can stay home for a day.

Communicate!

As I said in the introduction, irritations increase after the falling in love part. Check for yourself if it's worth worrying about. If no, let it go, if yes, talk about it! Make sure you can talk about these things in a nice calm way. Keep it to yourself, say: "I think it's annoying to hurry home because you will be locked out otherwise if you forget your keys" instead of "You are such a stupid fool, why don't you think and take the keys so I don't have to hurry myself coming home!!"

Next to that you can also communicate in a different way: Send each other sweet or sexy textmessages when you think about the other. This will only do good and create more sexual tension. Keep in mind that both of you are busy at the moment of texting so don't expect a response immediately!

Get in bed!

It;s important to sleep well so you wont be irritated that easy, but also sex will help you relax more and brings you two closer together. Is the passion a bit gone? Make sure there is no distraction in your sleeping-room like television or a mess. Other tips to get more in the mood are here!

Start something together!

It doesn't matter if it's a course to learn salsa-dancing or watching a new TV-series. By doing something together you are not only spending time together but also have something to talk about. Also going to the gym together can help, 'cause you will both be working on a aim (get in shape) and spend time together and you can support each other and be proud.

Go on a holiday!

This makes sure you have all the time in the world for each other and you can put your worries a side. Going somewhere you spend a romantic time before will re-lighten the flame.  Inter alia, because of the equal memories you both have.

Don't be affraid to talk

In case you can't work it out together there is always relationship-therapie. This can be just the little push you needed in the right direction. A therapist can help you talk about things and offer you some new insights.